Archive for the ‘ Emotional Health ’ Category

How to Use NO as an Organizational Tool

One of the first words a child learns is the word “no.” Ask any two-year-old if they want an ice cream cone, and they’ll say “no” even as they reach for it. They know the word; they know it’s a way to express their burgeoning independence. But sometimes they’re not quite clear on its meaning. […]

Posted on 10/23/2017 12:30 pm | No Comments
 

Road Closed, Change Directions

Late last summer I had to change my route from home to wherever I was headed. The most expedient, convenient, logical way from my house to the main thoroughfare was inaccessible. My road was closed. I could no longer take my familiar way through by driving around barriers or outwitting the road construction. A new […]

Posted on 08/26/2017 12:30 pm | No Comments
 

Invited to Invisibility

Really? You said you’d call and you didn’t. Did I make that up? Oh, no, I have the text right here. I’m not crazy. Are you avoiding me? Or, did you forget? If you forgot, how can I show up enough for you to remember me? Or, can I? If I bring it up, this […]

Posted on 07/18/2017 09:07 am | No Comments
 

I Hate Being Scared…It Scares Me

There are no tigers in my back yard, no snakes about my feet. Yet there it is—that protective sense deep inside my brain that generates fear. It’s that reaction that comes as an inheritance from the long line of those who have come before me—ancient cave dwellers, medieval servants, settlers on the frontier. Foes today […]

Posted on 06/19/2017 08:26 am | No Comments
 

Can You Think and Feel at the Same Time?

Thirty minutes flew by last week when I was being interviewed by my friend and colleague, Donna Parker. She’s an acupuncturist and health coach with a radio show—way cool. I hope you’ll listen in as we discuss thinking and feeling at the same time, ways we recreate upsets from the past and simple solutions to […]

Posted on 05/03/2017 11:48 am | No Comments
 

How Are Your Framing Your Life?

Five years ago I wrote and published a book, Sweet Relief from the Everyday Narcissist. At the time, it was a heart-felt offering of support for people who find themselves stymied by their relationships with folks who are perpetually displeased with them. It was the “amen” to relationships I’d encountered that provided me a curriculum […]

Posted on 03/29/2017 03:44 pm | No Comments
 

Scratching around for what to fix for dinner, I pulled shrimp out of the freezer and asked my daughter to marinade them in something. As she poured Ponzu over the shrimp, she asked “Is this a ‘wing-it’ marinade”? Since she tends to cling to rules (unlike her mother-maybe it skips a generation), cooking without a […]

Posted on 03/21/2017 07:54 am | No Comments
 

I Think I’ve Got IT!

Well, I had it for a brief moment. Thank goodness I lived on a farm for 20 years. I learned to temper my frustration by accepting that maintenance takes the most time. By spending more time filling tanks, sharpening blades or replacing bolts than I spent mowing, I learned to slow down and take one […]

Posted on 03/07/2017 07:07 am | No Comments
 

Happy Valentine’s Day!

My favorite memory of Valentine’s Day is a white paper sack that I carefully decorated when I was a second-grader. I cut out construction paper hearts, added stickers, and doused the whole thing with glitter. It was for collecting Valentine’s cards from my classmates and friends. It was filled to the top, and I felt […]

Posted on 02/14/2017 07:18 am | No Comments
 

Do You Know What You Want?

This is probably the most difficult question for people to answer when they meet with me. The answer usually quickly degrades into wanting people in their lives to change and do something differently. But those things are not up for grabs here. Directing the lives of others is beyond your authority. This is not about […]

Posted on 02/07/2017 08:19 am | No Comments