Scratching around for what to fix for dinner, I pulled shrimp out of the freezer and asked my daughter to marinade them in something. As she poured Ponzu over the shrimp, she asked “Is this a ‘wing-it’ marinade”? Since she tends to cling to rules (unlike her mother-maybe it skips a generation), cooking without a recipe was noteworthy and welcome. Much to my delight, she’s feeling freer in the kitchen by “winging-it”. After all, nothing goes according to recipe anyway.

Making do with what we have and making it delicious is a great life metaphor. After all, is there another way to meet life? Expectations produce disappointment, ‘cause it never turns out the way we rehearse it. I bought that special cheese for a meal I’d planned. Ooops, someone ate it. Time to fix that soufflé and the cheese is gone. If I stop and go to the grocery store, my energy and timing will be off for dinner and the rest of the evening. Solution: “wing-it”; find something else to put in the soufflé. Chocolate sounds good.

Life happens, plans are made and often go awry. Not to worry. Wing-it. Trust yourself to fly.

I Think I’ve Got IT!

Well, I had it for a brief moment. Thank goodness I lived on a farm for 20 years. I learned to temper my frustration by accepting that maintenance takes the most time. By spending more time filling tanks, sharpening blades or replacing bolts than I spent mowing, I learned to slow down and take one […]

Happy Valentine’s Day!

My favorite memory of Valentine’s Day is a white paper sack that I carefully decorated when I was a second-grader. I cut out construction paper hearts, added stickers, and doused the whole thing with glitter. It was for collecting Valentine’s cards from my classmates and friends. It was filled to the top, and I felt […]

Do You Know What You Want?

This is probably the most difficult question for people to answer when they meet with me. The answer usually quickly degrades into wanting people in their lives to change and do something differently. But those things are not up for grabs here. Directing the lives of others is beyond your authority. This is not about […]

Permission Granted

Most people, especially those unfamiliar with practicing self-care, need validation (“Taking care of yourself is a good thing”) if not permission (“Taking care of yourself is necessary and important.”) so they can focus on who they are, what they need and how to be the best possible version of yourself. How about you? Do you […]

The Low-Down on Low-Glycemic

  Looking at the state of health these days is a bit depressing.  Yes, fit is the new thin, however that’s not always enough.  Chronic disease- all types –from arthritis to cancer to diabetes and heart disease is powerfully affected by sugar.  Cancer thrives on it, as does diabetes and on and on, like I […]

A Snake in the Sink

Snakes have a bad rep and while they aren’t my favorite animal (I prefer elephants), I refrain from automatically thinking SNAKE—EVIL—KILL. Most of the snakes slinking around our farm are beneficial and do their part in keeping the rodent population in check. HOWEVER, being surprised by them in close proximity is not my idea of […]

The New Normal

Want to create an entertaining rumpus at your next dinner party? Invite some psychology professionals and ask them what they think of the recently released DSM5. That topic is guaranteed to provide passionate debate. The DSM5 is the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, 5th Edition used by psychiatrists, psychologists and other mental health providers to diagnose […]

Road Closed, Change Direction

Late last summer I had to change my route from home to wherever I was headed. The most expedient, convenient, logical way from home to the main public thoroughfare was inaccessible. My road closed. No way could I take my familiar way by driving around barriers or outwitting the road construction. A new bridge was […]

Starting the New Year with Commitment

Are you ready to change your relationship with your body and with food in 2013? Are you ready to be the change you desire in your life? If you answered “YES!” to either of the above questions, please consider making the commitment and joining the 12-week RESET Challenge: Destination Transformation Starting January 7th, I will […]